Scars of Emotional Abuse In Your Childhood Home

A whole generation victim of parental emotional abuse speaks out in more than 2154 responses... I'm fascinated by the huge response to a posting in Slate.com, asking this question:  When terrible, abusive parents come crawling back, what do their … [Read more...]

Healthy Conflict Can Improve Your Holidays

  Conflict at the holidays can be overwhelming and most people dread it so much that just the anxiety over possible conflict can bring down the entire mood of the holidays for them.  Somehow it feels to most people who despite what they may or may … [Read more...]

How to do Relationship Repair for this “Marriage Contract” ?

  Sharing what Mark Waller, The Dance of the Lion and the Unicorn, says in page 111, we have: “The subconscious agenda behind the wedding is that this other person will finally heal our pain. Of course, we are completely unaware of our pain … [Read more...]

Trusting Yourself after Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is meant to hurt  emotionally, of course, but it also hurts intellectually.  It begins to make the victim wonder if the words and actions are warranted.  Always questioning whether the abusive behavior is deserved. Eventually this … [Read more...]

How dirty is your fighting style? Want to learn how to fight fair?

We have posted before about the value of fighting with love instead of anger. Using calm dialogue and speaking with respect ("fighting" with "love") is always a better option during conflict; fighting fire with fire, with the aim of someone winning … [Read more...]