How to handle Verbal Abuse?

How do you handle verbal abuse? We all have all kinds of relationships...some nurturing, others destructive, and others in between. We need all of our relationships in order to learn and develop. We all learn to separate the good connections from … [Read more...]

Are Decisions Logical or Based on Emotional Needs?

    According to brain researchers: Emotional needs and passion are at the core of our decisions! As much as we may try to pretend otherwise, in our natural state, we really only use rational thinking when justifying our emotion-driven … [Read more...]

How to do Relationship Repair for this “Marriage Contract” ?

  Sharing what Mark Waller, The Dance of the Lion and the Unicorn, says in page 111, we have: “The subconscious agenda behind the wedding is that this other person will finally heal our pain. Of course, we are completely unaware of our pain … [Read more...]

How dirty is your fighting style? Want to learn how to fight fair?

We have posted before about the value of fighting with love instead of anger. Using calm dialogue and speaking with respect ("fighting" with "love") is always a better option during conflict; fighting fire with fire, with the aim of someone winning … [Read more...]

Too near, too far? How personal boundaries and self-esteem mix

In conflict situations, emotional and physical boundaries set the tone for how conflict will be handled, and even when/how conflict will arise. For some, a lack of boundaries creates contact that is more intrusive than intimate; for others, too many … [Read more...]