Are you passive, assertive, or aggressive?

Your communication style is important to recognize and define, as it affects how people react to you and how they address your needs. In the workplace, it can be especially important to know how you are communicating (and thus how you are perceived) … [Read more...]

Our Brains Create More Conflict Than We Do

According to researchers of the brain, we all make most decisions based on emotions and passions. Surprising, right? It challenges the common notion that we are logical decision-makers, and that emotions (when uncontrolled) are part of the immature … [Read more...]

Keep the Peace using Conflict Rules

Today we have a useful step for resolving frequent conflict in family relationships. Create "rules of engagement" with your partner or family members, and make sure that the rules are clear to everyone. The next time there is a conflict, these rules … [Read more...]

Will you be there for me?

In the inner game of relationships, there are core questions that make or break them.  Those questions refers to the most basic needs we humans have: for companionship and recognition: Are you accessible when I try to reach out to you? Will you … [Read more...]

Is Conflict our Way of Growing Up?

Let's take a different perspective on conflict. Not one that tells the usual story about a victim and a victimizer, but a balanced view including both sides' perspectives, as two players participating in a shared game:  to get satisfaction of their … [Read more...]