Keep the Peace using Conflict Rules

Today we have a useful step for resolving frequent conflict in family relationships. Create "rules of engagement" with your partner or family members, and make sure that the rules are clear to everyone. The next time there is a conflict, these rules … [Read more...]

Fight to Protect the Love in Your Relationship

When we communicate with one another, we are attempting to make an emotional connection - with our eyes, our body, our words. This is because humans are social beings; our brains are programmed to seek love and empathy from others. So what about … [Read more...]

10 Rules for Friendly Fighting for Couples (Guest Post)

By MARIE HARTWELL-WALKER, ED.D. For some people, this is a truly radical idea: There is no need to fight with your partner. Ever. Accusations, recriminations, character assassination, threats, name-calling, and cursing, whether delivered at top … [Read more...]

Appreciate More, Criticize Less

Given that our definition of marriage is that it should be a mutual admiration society, how come the other person is always pointing out our negative aspects and forgetting our good traits? In other words, that our partner doesn’t show enough … [Read more...]

Is Conflict our Way of Growing Up?

Let's take a different perspective on conflict. Not one that tells the usual story about a victim and a victimizer, but a balanced view including both sides' perspectives, as two players participating in a shared game:  to get satisfaction of their … [Read more...]