Keep the Peace using Conflict Rules

Today we have a useful step for resolving frequent conflict in family relationships. Create "rules of engagement" with your partner or family members, and make sure that the rules are clear to everyone. The next time there is a conflict, these rules … [Read more...]

Fight to Protect the Love in Your Relationship

When we communicate with one another, we are attempting to make an emotional connection - with our eyes, our body, our words. This is because humans are social beings; our brains are programmed to seek love and empathy from others. So what about … [Read more...]

Appreciate More, Criticize Less

Given that our definition of marriage is that it should be a mutual admiration society, how come the other person is always pointing out our negative aspects and forgetting our good traits? In other words, that our partner doesn’t show enough … [Read more...]

Is Conflict our Way of Growing Up?

Let's take a different perspective on conflict. Not one that tells the usual story about a victim and a victimizer, but a balanced view including both sides' perspectives, as two players participating in a shared game:  to get satisfaction of their … [Read more...]

How to Confront People Without Fighting

It is very common for people to see a mere difference of opinions as a situation where they are pushed to “win.” Winning means imposing their view, convincing the other person of his wrong ways, and having finally the last word. Finally, it … [Read more...]