Sometimes, our purpose in life doesn't appear clear to us.
We are pulled by other people's needs, demands and urgencies.
Several institutions predicate their dogmas to us as to what kind of project we should follow: church, schools, political parties....
But, where is your own perspective here?
Is there a way to re-discover your life project? A simple, straightforward way to find it again? Well, yes! You need to start by checking your basic needs and how they are solved or unsolved just now.
- The most basic activity is to look at your human needs. Remember, we all have different needs of personal security; variety; love and connection, recognition and transcendence.
- Can you look at this list and identify where are you still starving? Can you make a list of your frustrated areas? Do you need security or love, variety or recognition? Where is your most important hunger?
- Having identified which areas are the most starved, decide if you are waiting for someone to satisfy them. If you are an adult, STOP! and make the commitment to solve your own needs by yourself.
- You need to understand that your first priority is not to get hurt, followed by the need to develop and grow with your needs satisfied.
- Wrestling the control over your needs satisfaction into your own hands, gives you your power back.
When you have recovered your own personal power, you can begin a conversation with anyone around you from a position of power, and not of subordination, as before.
You know how to find solutions to your needs, and this attitude gives you the most important life project: to make yourself happy!
From here on, your self-esteem is linked to the question:
How much do I care to listen and solve my own needs? How much do I provide security, variety and recognition to myself and to others?
Remember that: Once your own needs are solved, you can give to others....but not before.