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How to Confront People Without Fighting

January 20, 2011 – 10:27 am

It is very common for people to see a mere difference of opinions as a situation where they are pushed to “win.” Winning means imposing their view, convincing the other person of his wrong ways, and having finally the last word. Finally, it becomes a form of control, and a power struggle. How often have [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Emotional Abuse, Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships | Also tagged appreciation, attitude change, conflict, confrontation, critique, feelings, fight, healthy relationships, humiliation, reconciliation, resilience, respect | Comments (0)

A Different Christmas Story

December 22, 2010 – 3:42 pm

In this special time of the year, besides doing too many tasks together in order to make time to prepare for celebrations, we also have the opportunity to reflect on our deep values: love, companionship, respect for and appreciation of important people in our lives…. Here is a little story to invite us to focus [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Healthy Marriage, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships, Self-Esteem | Also tagged appreciation, attitude change, conflict resolution, feelings, forgiveness, happiness, healthy relationships, loneliness, love, recognition, reconciliation | Comments (0)

Do love and needs satisfaction go together?

June 9, 2010 – 9:30 pm

We all have deep needs, which move us to search for satisfaction. We crave security, excitement, love and connection and recognition. How do we go about finding solutions? It has multiple ways, some of them not so fulfilling as others. And sometimes, due to our upbringing, we understand “love” and “connection” and “appreciation” in way [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Relationships, Self-Esteem | Also tagged angry husband, appreciation, attitude change, emotions, feelings, Healthy Marriage, healthy relationships, loneliness, love, negative emotions, recognition, Relationships, respect | Comments (0)

Love and connection

June 3, 2010 – 4:14 am

There is some confusion around the question: whose job is to make you happy? There seems to be two answers: 1) It’s Your Partner’s Job To Make You Happy. Has to do with a basic contract in marriage by which we will try to solve reciprocal needs: his need for appreciation will be nurtured by [...]

By Nora Femenia | Posted in Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Relationships, Self-Esteem | Also tagged appreciation, conflict, connection, critique, feelings, frustration, healthy relationships, loneliness, love, Relationships, respect | Comments (0)

Is your angry, silent partner a challenge?

November 18, 2009 – 5:49 am

How do you react to hubby’s hostile silence? He says nothing, but you know he is mad as hell. He is obviously sulking in front of you, and his attitude fills the room with a very negative vibe. For you, this silent anger is far more maddening and crazy than an overt attack…you would prefer [...]