Let’s take a different perspective on conflict. Not one that tells the usual story about a victim and a victimizer, but a balanced view including both sides’ perspectives, as two players participating in a shared game: to get satisfaction of their own needs. Any relationship is an implicit contract in which both individuals promise to [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships, Self-Esteem
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Also tagged appreciation, conflict resolution, confrontation, control, feelings, fight, frustration, growth, human needs, isolation, loneliness, love, Relationships, respect, Self-Esteem
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January 13, 2011 – 9:28 am
Below each one of our resolutions to improve our lives, there is a deeply felt need. What happens when what you wish for is based on your relationship, and it will require some changes on the other side of it? In short, how do you make the other person change? Of course, forceful change never [...]
December 22, 2010 – 3:42 pm
In this special time of the year, besides doing too many tasks together in order to make time to prepare for celebrations, we also have the opportunity to reflect on our deep values: love, companionship, respect for and appreciation of important people in our lives…. Here is a little story to invite us to focus [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Healthy Marriage, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships, Self-Esteem
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Also tagged appreciation, attitude change, conflict resolution, feelings, forgiveness, happiness, healthy relationships, loneliness, love, reconciliation, understanding
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November 17, 2010 – 10:33 am
It’s difficult to escape popular understandings about fighting with other people, even loved ones. Do you remember the old clichés? “Fight fire with fire” “The best defense is a good attack” Most of your experiences teach you to respond to other person’s perceived attack with another attack, so the dispute instead of being resolved escalates [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Anger Management, Emotional Abuse, Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Relationships, Self-Esteem
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Also tagged aggression, attitude change, confrontation, Emotional Abuse, emotions, feelings, fight, frustration, healthy relationships, Self-Esteem, Silence
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October 18, 2010 – 10:19 am
Many people in a marital crisis think of it as a sign that everything is over and it’s time to say good bye. But that mentality denies you an important opportunity to examine what went wrong and fix it. Saving a marriage starts by reinventing it, and reinventing starts with examination. For example, one crisis [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Anger Management, Emotional Abuse, Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Relationships
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Also tagged angry husband, conflict, Emotional Abuse, healthy relationships, reconciliation, Relationships, resilience, respect
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