Given that our definition of marriage is that it should be a mutual admiration society, how come the other person is always pointing out our negative aspects and forgetting our good traits? In other words, that our partner doesn’t show enough appreciation. Yet those who complaint about this are perpetrators as well! There is a [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Relationships, Self-Esteem
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Also tagged appreciation, critique, feelings, Healthy Marriage, healthy relationships, isolation, love, recognition, respect, Self-Esteem
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Let’s take a different perspective on conflict. Not one that tells the usual story about a victim and a victimizer, but a balanced view including both sides’ perspectives, as two players participating in a shared game: to get satisfaction of their own needs. Any relationship is an implicit contract in which both individuals promise to [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships, Self-Esteem
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Also tagged appreciation, conflict resolution, confrontation, control, feelings, frustration, growth, human needs, isolation, loneliness, love, recognition, Relationships, respect, Self-Esteem
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January 25, 2011 – 10:34 am
We all know that it is hard to work for someone you simply can’t respect. However, is that lack of respect a sign of a faulty boss, or a faulty worker? Though the question is hard, maybe even confrontational, it is important to remember that everyone has points in their lives where they need to [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships
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Also tagged anger, angry boss, bad boss, conflict, confrontation, control, frustration, humiliation, respect, workplace anxiety
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January 20, 2011 – 10:27 am
It is very common for people to see a mere difference of opinions as a situation where they are pushed to “win.” Winning means imposing their view, convincing the other person of his wrong ways, and having finally the last word. Finally, it becomes a form of control, and a power struggle. How often have [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Emotional Abuse, Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships
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Also tagged appreciation, attitude change, conflict, confrontation, critique, feelings, healthy relationships, humiliation, reconciliation, resilience, respect, understanding
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November 17, 2010 – 10:33 am
It’s difficult to escape popular understandings about fighting with other people, even loved ones. Do you remember the old clichés? “Fight fire with fire” “The best defense is a good attack” Most of your experiences teach you to respond to other person’s perceived attack with another attack, so the dispute instead of being resolved escalates [...]
By alfaprima
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Posted in Anger Management, Emotional Abuse, Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Relationships, Self-Esteem
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Also tagged aggression, attitude change, confrontation, Emotional Abuse, emotions, feelings, frustration, healthy relationships, recognition, Self-Esteem, Silence
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