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10 Rules for Friendly Fighting for Couples (Guest Post)

April 12, 2011 – 9:54 am

By MARIE HARTWELL-WALKER, ED.D. For some people, this is a truly radical idea: There is no need to fight with your partner. Ever. Accusations, recriminations, character assassination, threats, name-calling, and cursing, whether delivered at top volume or with a quiet sarcastic sneer, damage a relationship, often irrevocably. Nobody needs to be a monster or to be treated monstrously. [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Relationships, Self-Esteem | Also tagged anger, appreciation, conflict, conflict resolution, confrontation, critique, fight, forgiveness, humiliation, passive aggressive, reconciliation | Comments (0)

Destroying love, one bit at the time

April 5, 2011 – 9:38 am

There is a slow way of killing the reciprocal love we all begin our married life with….composed of small, daily disappointments that will end up destroying reciprocal respect. What are they? Here is the list of all communication activities that enforce the idea that one spouse is better than the other: interruption of spouse’s explanation [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Healthy Marriage, Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships | Also tagged appreciation, conflict resolution, critique, frustration, negative emotions, passive aggressive, reconciliation, rejection, resentment | Comments (2)

Is Conflict our Way of Growing Up?

March 4, 2011 – 11:44 am

Let’s take a different perspective on conflict. Not one that tells the usual story about a victim and a victimizer, but a balanced view including both sides’ perspectives, as two players participating in a shared game: to get satisfaction of their own needs. Any relationship is an implicit contract in which both individuals promise to [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Marriage and Communications, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships, Self-Esteem | Also tagged appreciation, conflict resolution, confrontation, feelings, fight, frustration, growth, human needs, isolation, loneliness, love, recognition, Relationships, respect, Self-Esteem | Comments (0)

How to Deal with Difficult People

January 27, 2011 – 10:44 am

What does it mean, that someone is difficult? Every day, we come into contact with people that are walking emotional bundles. They carry the weight of past experiences with them, framing their present experiences as well as whatever wrong assumptions about life they have gained from those hurts. Their previous experiences have conditioned them, from [...]

By alfaprima | Posted in Anger Management, Emotional Abuse, Healthy Marriage, Passive Aggressive Behavior, Relationships | Also tagged anger, attitude change, conflict, conflict resolution, critique, frustration, humiliation, negative emotions, passive aggression, rejection, resentment, Resistance | Comments (0)

Signs of a difficult boss

January 25, 2011 – 10:34 am

We all know that it is hard to work for someone you simply can’t respect. However, is that lack of respect a sign of a faulty boss, or a faulty worker? Though the question is hard, maybe even confrontational, it is important to remember that everyone has points in their lives where they need to [...]