Tag Archives: control

Keeping self-esteem by negotiating your boundaries

In conflict situations, emotional and physical boundaries set the tone for how conflict will be handled, and even when/how conflict will arise. For some, a lack of boundaries creates contact that is more intrusive than intimate; for others, too many boundaries create alienation and distrust between partners. We often hear from clients that the boundaries [...]

Are you passive, assertive, or aggressive?

Your communication style is important to recognize and define, as it affects how people react to you and how they address your needs. In the workplace, it can be especially important to know how you are communicating (and thus how you are perceived) as a professional colleague. It is also important in personal relationships, in [...]

So you believe to be a rational decision-maker? How wrong can you be?

New research is turning our old assumptions on human nature on their heads…like the belief that humans are rational decision-makers. They are emotional decision-makers…and this new framing opens a world of new possibilities for understand our behavior.

Keep the Peace using Conflict Rules

Today we have a useful step for resolving frequent conflict in family relationships. Create “rules of engagement” with your partner or family members, and make sure that the rules are clear to everyone. The next time there is a conflict, these rules are to be strictly followed. What are some rules that we recommend? Well, [...]

Will you be there for me?

In the inner game of relationships, there are core questions that make or break them.  Those questions refers to the most basic needs we humans have: for companionship and recognition: Are you accessible when I try to reach out to you? Will you be responsive to my needs? Are you committed to this relationship? In other words, [...]