Category Archives: Self-Esteem

Keeping self-esteem by negotiating your boundaries

In conflict situations, emotional and physical boundaries set the tone for how conflict will be handled, and even when/how conflict will arise. For some, a lack of boundaries creates contact that is more intrusive than intimate; for others, too many boundaries create alienation and distrust between partners. We often hear from clients that the boundaries [...]

Abusive Behavior First Red Flag? Hear Him Yelling at You!

When women out of fear deny what they are experiencing under an emotionally abusive husband, they help perpetuate this behavior. It is not helping to “keep the marriage going,” but is creating permission for abuse.

A Better Relationship Means Telling Your Partner Where it Hurts

Much of the conflict in our lives begins when we feel that we are suffering (either alone or at the hands of those we’re in conflict with).Brian Lynch, M.D., has shared his thoughts on suffering and how we can see it in a different way. This helps tremendously when trying to create more peace and [...]

Surprise! you are happiest when sharing issues making your husband unhappy!

According to a new research study conducted by the American Psychological Society, men and women have different criteria for feeling happy in a relationship. Yeah, shocker, right? However, the criteria this particular study found is interesting, and could help you understand better what your partner needs from you during conflict. Couples were brought in and [...]

Emotions, the Hidden Engine of our Decisions!

How under each decision our emotions are hiding, looking for satisfaction first, and then we get to rationalize our decision.