5 Steps for Anger-Free Holidays!

There can be many opportunities for you to feel the joy promised by the season...but also to feel that your buttons are pushed beyond your limits. It's in your hands to have a simple plan to manage holidays stress with grace and class.

No more family anger explosions leaving a sour taste in your memory, and in other's memories for ever? Having the peace of mind that all family gatherings will proceed smoothly and that the little ones will not have an opportunity to feel scared again?

To be a safe and predictable person for those around you at home, it is essential that you are able to maintain your composure when you feel like your 'buttons' are being pushed. This strength will help you to achieve your goals in your personal life as well as your goals for your personal relationships.

1. If and when you feel some negative reaction, store that emotion and don't act out on it. Force yourself to think: "I'll deal with this tomorrow; not today!" So you can give yourself time to examine all aspects of the "offense" and verify if they are true...and if you need to respond. Some offenses are best left unattended and ignored.

2. Pay attention to others. Whatever they are telling you, make a purpose to send the message: "I understand what you are saying" and say it frequently, before (or instead of) offering advice.

3. Watch your emotions and make a point of not feeling immediately attacked or victimized. probably the other person doesn't mean the comment in that way? It's better to ask questions from the other person: "Is it true that you feel upset with me"

4. Take responsibility for your feelings, and don't blame other people. It is not what they did to you, is your reaction to what others did....so watch this difference. So many times they are not doing things to aggravate you, they can be simply confused or distracted or careless.....

5. Take a playful attitude towards your angry persona...you can give it a name as in: "When I'm in my "Angry Joe" mode, I tend to think that everybody conspires against me, but afterwards I can see that it's only my imagination..."Angry Joe" is very active paranoid self of mine, but I can control him..."

As time passes, you will be able to be more objective about your needs, your reactions, and learn that it is always a choice to get angry at others. You can choose instead to control your reactions, calm yourself and see this "Angry Joe" part of you as an old response that now needs to be excluded when answering to present challenges.

Neil Warner

Neil Warner

I'm the “relationship guru,” and my main focus is to increase the quality of love-based relationship experiences. In this ground-breaking guide I offer useful strategies on healing a difficult angry relationship with love and compassion. You don't have to stay in an unhealthy relationship one more minute. Let us share our tools with you today, by offering you this ebook about how you can recover from anger explosions.

 

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